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Have you ever noticed the loudest people in the room are usually the ones who are not building anything? I want you to think about that for a minute. Because when you really think about it and you're in the lab working, your hands are busy, you don't have time to be holding a microphone telling everybody every single thing that you're doing. So you're telling people what you're about to do, you're telling people how you're going to do it, where who you're working with, what opportunities that you found, who you're what you're applying for, what you're building. You're telling them the whole blueprint. And by the time that you are done talking, they're thinking to themselves, like, oh, I could do that. You done gave them the whole idea, the resources, the instructions, the context, and probably your login username and password. And then six months later, you're gonna be scratching your head like, oh my goodness, she stole my idea. I told her about that. No, you gave that to her freely, free of charge. You gave it to her. Yes, you did. And that's the problem. You gotta be quiet because you're talking too much. And if this is your first time listening to mid-hour chat, this is what we do over here. We talk about the stuff that everybody sees, everybody's experiencing, but for some reason nobody wants to talk about it. And I'm not just going to point out a problem to complain about it and leave you sitting with that thought. We're gonna figure it out together and I'm gonna let you know what to do with it. And that's today's elephant in the room. Sometimes the problem isn't that somebody stole your idea. Sometimes you just gave them the whole idea for free. And I want to be clear about this because I don't want you walking away thinking that I am telling you that you can't talk to anybody, or that I am telling you that you just need to be quiet and hide. That's not what I'm saying at all. I'm talking about access. Everybody doesn't need to have access to what you're doing while you're in the development stage. Some things you need to have time, allow it to grow in the dark before everybody gets to put their hands on it. And I had to learn this myself because I'm naturally a communicator and I'm naturally a sharer. Like if you ask me how to do something, sometimes I will go on and on and on, giving you everything all at once. That's just how I am. If I find something good, my first instinct is, oh my God, I gotta tell somebody about this. Well, let me share this. I found this tool, I found this opportunity. Look at what this can do, look at this resource. Hey, I I got it. You can have it. And I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with that. It's nothing wrong with helping people, but you can be so busy helping everybody else understand the opportunity that you have not even taken full advantage of. You got to take full advantage of the opportunity yourself first, and then we can be talking business because information has value. Timing has value, execution has value, access has value. And I've literally caught myself doing this. I discover a tool, I figure out a process, and I know that this can help somebody else. I know that it can help them a lot faster than it was for me. And before I've even completed working through it myself, I'm already telling somebody else about it. Does that sound familiar? Or is it just me? You see yourself saying, girl, look at this. You can use this to do this. How about when ChatGPT came out? You using it, right? Playing around with it. And the first thing you do is you go out and you tell someone, oh my God, you should see how this works. Next thing you know, I'm giving a whole free training session, and I'm still trying to figure it out in my own process. So wait a minute, what am I doing? I haven't mastered this yet. I haven't turned this into a system yet, and I haven't even figured it out. I haven't made a dollar from it, but somehow I'm just giving it away for free. And then that is what made me start paying attention to something else. Sometimes we talk about things because we're excited. You would agree with that, right? Yeah. Sometimes we talk about things because we're excited. And then other times we are talking about things because we want validation. Uh-huh. I know that's dumb, but it's the truth. Sometimes we're looking for somebody to say, oh girl, that was a great idea. Sometimes we're trying to prove that we're doing something, and sometimes we're just talking too much. And that's all. You don't need an extra explanation. It was always said that what is understood does not need to be explained. But why do we do that? Why are we so quick to tell people what we're doing, what we're going to be doing, before we've actually done anything? I want to hear from you. So make sure you leave a message in the comments. But back to what I was saying, come to find out. There is actually a psychology behind all of this. There is a real meaning. So when you tell somebody that your big goals, whatever it is that you're trying to do, right, before you actually get to do them, your brain releases dopamine and it tricks you into feeling like you've already achieved that sad thing. Psychologists, they call that social reality. And I call it leaking energy. You leaking energy around a whole bunch of energy vampires. So now you done told everybody that you're starting a business. You done told everybody that you're about to get this new opportunity. And everybody else is saying, girl, that's amazing. Oh, you're gonna kill that. I can't wait. Oh my God, that's awesome. And now you're feeling so good. But you ain't found nothing. You didn't even start anything. You haven't built nothing. You ain't sold nothing. You ain't even opened up your laptop. But you're already getting some of that emotional reward from talking about it. And that's why a lot of people don't even finish the thing that they start if they start. Because you done talked about it so much and got that instant gratification that it a lot made you think that you already done it. Talking can start feeling like you're making moves. Planning, it makes you feel like you got some progress. And then when you start announcing it, you're gonna start feeling like you're executing. And that's not the same thing. That is where you are leaking your energy. You got the excitement, the congratulations, you got all the attention that you looked for. And the only thing that you don't have yet is the result. So sometimes you have to be quiet. And you gotta be quiet long enough to actually do the thing. There is a massive difference between secrecy and there's definitely a massive difference between strategy. But do you know what that is? Because that's important. And I'm not telling you, okay, I want you to be paranoid or I want you to be suspicious about everybody that you're around. That's not what I'm saying. But you have to be more intentional about who has access. Because everybody that is smiling at you, they're not necessarily rooting for you. Do you hear me? They smiling in your face, but they laughing at you behind your back. And everybody who asks you, so what are you up to? What you working on now? They don't automatically need the full answer. You can simply just tell them, oh, I'm working on a few things. I'll tell you about it when it's ready. That's it. You don't owe anybody the PowerPoint presentation of your life. And the other part that's important that I want to mention is sometimes nobody's plotting against you at all. You just distracting yourself. Every time that you announce something prematurely, you are opening up the door to opinions. You know, when you tell somebody something and you were so happy, girl, I'm about to write this book. Oh, I wouldn't do that. Oh, that takes too much time. Are you sure about that? Oh, the market is too saturated. How are you gonna afford all that? You know, it's a lot of steps. Now, something that you were so crystal clear about three days ago, now you're second guessing yourself. Does that sound familiar? Because that's what I mean when I am talking about identity and how you move. If you are confident and your confidence requires everybody else's agreement, you're going to have a hard time executing anything. And execution in this season, in this day and time, it matters. Ideas are not going to produce results. You can have a million and one ideas, and I'm pretty sure you probably got a notebook full of ideas, but how many of them has actually produced results sitting in your book? You've done nothing but talk about them. But execution will produce results. And this is actually part of the work that I do. I connect the dots between identity mindset and execution because sometimes what looks like a strategy problem is not a strategy problem. You know what to do. You're leaking your energy in 10 different directions before you actually do one. And that's part of what I call the gap method. That space between knowing and actually doing is important. And if you've been sitting on something, you've been talking about something, you've been planning something or researching it, but not moving towards anything, that's where I want you to start looking. Not for another motivational talk or another motivational quote. I want you to look at what is leaking, where is the leak coming from? Now, I don't want you to be here feeling like I'm lecturing you because listen, I am the friend that you always wanted, right? And I'm not gonna leave you stuck because there are some things that I have learned over time about when to talk, who to talk to, and when to just be quiet and do the work. So I'm gonna give you five of them. The first one is you have to stop announcing things before you executed them. And I'm gonna have to tell you again, stop announcing things before you execute them. There was a time when I was working on this major contract proposal, okay? And it was for over 200K. And I thought that the people that I was working with, they were a team. Like we was, you know, we were family. We was a team. I mean, that's how I like to look at it. I felt like they wanted to win like I wanted to win. Now I'm thinking about how everybody else can eat, but everybody else is got their own agendas. And none of our agendas was aligned. So much so that I found everything that I was doing was not working. And then when it was time to get the results, I got the letter and it was like, sorry, we chose someone else. Uh it wasn't exactly those words, but that's basically what it was saying. I didn't get the grant. But that next time that opportunity rolled around, guess what I did? I ain't say nothing. I applied, I waited for the results, and after I got the results, then I told the team, hey, everybody, we got we got a new contract. See the difference between the first time I applied and the second time, I didn't share the blueprint. I did not announce every single step that I was taking, every stage that I was in, every phase that I completed. I didn't say nothing. And it was uncomfortable for me because I am a team player. I like to be like, okay, team, this is where we're at. I love communication. I love to keep other people informed. I love to share. I like to work together, but that's not, that's not the dynamics of everybody's team. And that's where you have to be careful because you can be operating like a team player, like I was, but you can be amongst people who may actually be playing on the opposite side. And I don't want you falling for that trap. You don't have to tell everybody everything. You don't gotta let them know that you're starting your business, just start it. You don't have to let them know that you're about to get this contract, just get it, apply, finish it. Announce the certifications after you got the results. Don't go posting stuff on social media, announcing it to the world and explaining to everybody what this is and congratulating you before you even got it in your hand. Just work on it. Number two, master the resource before you become somebody else's teacher. When I first started working on this new service that I offer in my business, my advisor told me, Juanita, be careful what you share with other people before you get your results. You can't teach them something that you haven't mastered. Do it first, then do it a few more times. Then you can share it. And it wasn't that she was saying this because I didn't know what I was doing. She was telling me this because there were people watching me. Just like I'm getting on this platform and speaking to you all about life experiences or whatever the case may be, there's people I don't even know, I can't even see you, but you're watching me, you're listening to me, and you're looking for the next come up. So if I tell you something, or I tell someone on here something that I'm working on, and then I haven't even put it together yet, that's the problem. And that's what she was trying to tell me not to do. Because that person that may be listening on the other end might already be ready. They might have a capital, they might have a team, they might have something that I don't have. And I gave them the idea. Now it's going to work for them because I didn't laid out the whole blueprint. You've got everything else you need. All you got to do is connect the dots. And then I'll be sitting over there like, oh my God, that was that was my idea. And I can't be mad at anybody but myself for giving it to you because yes, I gave you the solution before I even solved my own problem. And this one is especially important for all of my helpful people out there because you might find something useful and immediately you're gonna start sending links and all kinds of everything. But I don't want you to do that right now. I want you to stop. Use it first, figure it out, figure it out if it works for you, what it works for, figure out what doesn't work, create your process and get your results. Just that simple. Then you can decide who you're willing to share with and what you are willing to share with them. So in business, what you know, and more importantly, what you know how to execute, that can become your intellectual property. So look at the tool, look at the method, look at the resources, whatever it is that you discover, and test it out for yourself. Get it working, get the wheels turning. And once you get to the point where you feel like you've actually mastered it, you got it working for you, you produce results for yourself, then you can start teaching it and using it for other people. Number three, pay attention to why you want to tell people things. I had somebody call me the other day and they were like, hey, we need to patent this idea. And I'm like, okay. And I'm thinking about it, and you know me, everybody that knows me, I get excited when somebody is talking about something that they want to start because my mind works so quickly, I can see the beginning to the end. I'm like, okay, I got your strategy before we even get off the phone. That's how my brain works. But I wasn't feeling this conversation, and I'm gonna tell you why. I wasn't feeling the conversation because the person who called me, they had other people in the background commenting on our conversation. Like suggestion options, like, oh, you should do this, and oh yeah, I seen this online, and da da da da. And I'm like, wait a minute, what is this? Who is that? I'm not a gatekeeper, but this person is not part of my veted system. They ain't part of my vetic crew, and I'm not talking around you. They are a random person just overhearing the conversation, and I wasn't having it. So I'm like, okay, listen, call me when you get to a get home because now we're discussing something that you're talking about patenting that can potentially become intellectual property, a business, a product, a service, whatever it becomes. And then somebody I don't even know has invited themselves into my strategy session. So if this is something that you do, why do you do it? I want you to really answer that. Why? Why do you feel the need to tell everybody what you're working on? Because if you stop and you trace that impulse back to where you started, sometimes you're not asking for feedback. You just want that instant gratification. You want somebody to mention to you that, hey, that's a great idea, girl. You always up to something. You always hustling. You want reassurance. You want somebody to reassure you that the idea sounds smart. Maybe you're a little nervous about actually doing it. And I know that this one might sting a little more than the others. My question to you is: are you looking for accountability? Or are you looking for applause? Because we know that those aren't the same thing, right? And remember what we just talked about with the emotional reward. Sometiming about the thing feels almost like you have done the thing, but you haven't done nothing. So the next time that you feel the urge to announce your goals, give it some time. Give yourself about 24 hours and complete one measurable action before you start talking about it. Number four, everybody doesn't deserve the same level of access. If I could only speak two words all day, every day, in any situation, they're gonna be access denied. Hey Juanita, how you doing, access denied? Hey Juanita, what you up to? Access denied. Hey Juanita, uh, how does this work? Access denied. I just wanted to say that out loud. Because much like the last situation I just told you about, this one is going to require you to be more aware of what you're doing, what you're saying, and who you're around. You can be at lunchtime, you can be casually having a conversation, you might be talking in a break room, you might be telling someone, hey girl, I'm about to finish this project management certification, and that's all you have to say. No harm done, no file found. But then your hater that overheard you, and I mean your coworker, they overheard you, and then they immediately go back, and then your manager is sitting there twiddling twirling their pin, like, oh, hmm, really? Yeah, she said that she's taking project management classes. I think she's trying to try to be your boss. Maybe she's trying to leave. Now you got people wondering, are you committed? You got somebody looking at you sideways like, mm, she must think she's better than us. And then you spending all your energy putting out fires. All because you gave a strategic personal update to somebody who you trusted, but they only needed to know what you was eating for lunch. That's it. What are you eating today, Juanita? Uh, you know, my regular salad. That's all you need to know. There's public information, there's pub, there's personal information, there's strategic information, and then there's information that belongs inside of your trusted circle only. You gotta learn the difference. Your coworker doesn't need to know everything that you're planning professionally outside of work. They don't even need to know what's going on, what you plan on in work. Your social media followers, they don't need to know every move that you are making. And somebody that's being your friend, they they're not automatically qualified to be your business advisor. So think about that. Think about the people that you're sharing your plans with. What role does this person actually play in what you're building? And if you can't answer that, then you need to do what? Be quiet. Because access is denied. So yeah, adjust their access. And the last thing, the last thing, I promise, you have to let your results do some of the talking. And this one is my favorite. I love this one because it takes discipline. It took me a long time, a lot of failed projects just to get to this point. I know what it's like when you're proud of your idea, when you're excited about what you're what progress you made. I know what it feels like. Something is finally coming together, and you just want to tell somebody. Like your fingers are itching to dial somebody's number and call them and be like, girl, guess what? Don't do that. They can find out when you do your soft launch, but just wait until you're done. And you're gonna feel so much better. I promise you, you will feel so much better knowing that the only thing that could ever go wrong is because of you and nobody else throwing any wrenches in to your progress at every milestone that you try to reach, trying to slow you down. Nobody is able to slow you down or stop that process because they are too busy competing with you instead of competing with themselves. You don't need to be competing with nobody else but who you were yesterday. I know that I know that wasn't grammatically correct, but it sounded right in the moment. If you're the one competing with somebody, stop it. Because we are so quick to talk about somebody competing with us, but what if you are that somebody? What if you're that person watching somebody else's business and you're like, mmm, well, let me hurry up and uh do this because, you know, I need to get on that level. I can't let her pass me. You watching somebody else's money, their career, their followers, their life, their progress. And then you're running a race that wasn't even yours. Just stop it. Use your energy to set your own personal goals. Compete with yourself, compete with the version of you from yesterday. And you're gonna get a lot more satisfaction out of that. I promise you. You will have more satisfaction than for you expending all of your energy trying to keep up with somebody else. And imagine instead of telling everybody for six months what you're going to do, you just do it. And you just show up, boom, bam. Ow. Yeah, that's finished. Mm-hmm. Yes, we launched already. Well, I got that correct. Yes. That's a different kind of energy because now nobody can talk you out of nothing. Nobody can get in your way. You already executed, and you don't need the applause anymore because you already had the results. So I want you to do something. I want you to think about the biggest thing that you've been working on right now. And I don't want you to tell me. I don't want you to post it. I don't want you calling somebody and explaining the whole idea. I just want you to write down the next three moves that you are required to do to get this thing done. Because some of us, we don't need another conversation. We just need evidence that we're doing it. And if you notice that you've been spending more time explaining the vision than executing the vision, that's your answer. You gotta be quiet. Be quiet for a minute and just build. You don't have to become cold. You ain't gotta walk around room with an attitude, being secretive, and you definitely don't have to walk around thinking that everybody's out to get you. That was not the message for today. The message is you had to become more discerning. Some things are supposed to be shared, some things are supposed to be caught, some things are supposed to be taught, some things are supposed to become resources to help somebody else. And then you have some stuff that you need to keep between you, God, your notebook, and the work that you need to be doing just for a little while. Because you're still building. You gotta protect that stage. You don't have to prove that you're moving and announce to the world, hey, this is coming, just move. And when the time comes, then you can talk about it. You won't have to spend nearly as much time explaining what you're going to do if you already done it. So do something different. Don't announce your next move, just keep moving. And if this episode made you think about something that you've been telling the entire world, way too many people, I want you to send this episode to the one friend who needs to hear it too. And if you are new to mid hour chat and this is the kind of conversation that you've been waiting for that you want to listen to, I want you to follow the show because we've got a whole ton of elephants in a room to talk about. But I'll talk to you next time. And until then, be quiet. You're talking too much.